Best Behavior for Brides and Bridesmaids
Commentary featured by GLAMOUR magazine online
Most every lady has been there – either as a bridesmaid dealing with a bridezilla, or as a bride disappointed by an uninvolved, unenthused bridesmaid. Neither party is necessarily to blame, but when the most important day in a girl’s life is at stake, the pressure is on for everyone to smile and everything to run smoothly. Miscommunication, false expectations, and feelings of burden or obligation, can call lead to shaky situations within bridal parties.
- Getting ready together (photo by Quiana Duncan).
- My amazing maid of honor fluffing my train (photo by Quiana Duncan).
- My beautiful bridesmaids on the patio of our shared suite, wearing their complementary dresses and matching hook bracelets (photo by Quiana Duncan).
- My bridesmaids wearing their matching tops at our bridal brunch the morning of my wedding day. They are pictured with me, my Mom and my husband’s Mom.
- The amazing keepsake box my maid of honor handmade, given to me at my bridal brunch (photo provided by Bridesmaid Becca Thom).
- My lovely bridesmaids on the beach at our wedding rehearsal (photo provided by Bridesmaid Becca Thom).
I have heard countless horror stories . . . I had a friend so embarrassed by her bridesmaid dress, that she carried a cocktail dress in her purse to change into the moment professional wedding photos were finished. A friend of a friend who was a graduate student at the time, had to set-up a yearlong payment plan with the bride’s family to repay them for the designer bridesmaid dress chosen for her by the bride. It goes without saying that in both these cases, the bride and bridesmaid were not the best of friends after the wedding.
As a recent bride and event planner turned wedding professional, I thought I would share some ideas on how to keep everyone happy and foster even stronger friendships after the wedding.
How brides can make their bridesmaids happy . . .
For my wedding in St Croix earlier this year, I included bridal party accommodations in my wedding budget. Footing the bill for a bridal suite not only lessened my bridesmaids’ travel expenses, but provided a slumber party-like environment for us to bond. On my wedding day, I offered to pay for a manicure or pedicure for each bridesmaid, so that we could get ready together in the resort spa.
Before the big day, I decided to make the dreaded bridesmaid dress a pleasant experience for all. I chose a fabric and color and let my bridesmaids choose the design of their dress through Aria. The cost of the dresses also came from my wedding budget. I had the dresses shipped directly to my bridesmaids, so that they could have them tailored to their liking. Since our ceremony was barefoot on the beach, I suggested a shoe type and color for the reception, and let my bridesmaids choose a pair from their closet collections. I made my bridesmaid gift their accessory, a hammered silver hook bracelet from Sonya’s Limited, the local company that originally began crafting the traditional island bracelet more than 40 years ago.
But the single most important thing I did as a bride to keep my bridesmaids happy was hire a wedding coordinator. SunCelebrations, the company I now coordinate with, executed my plans and took care of everything on my wedding day so that my bridesmaids and I could just relax and enjoy. In previous experiences as a bridesmaid, I had done everything from bleach outdoor chairs in the heat, to run last-minute beauty errands in the snow. I did not want my bridesmaids setting-up my ceremony or doing any of the dirty work (especially since they were on vacation too). Hiring a wedding coordinator was essential to keeping my wedding party happy.
What it takes to be a bridesmaid that remains friends with the bride after her wedding . . .
First and foremost, only say “yes” to a bride’s request to be a bridesmaid if you truly want to be a part of her big day. Particularly in situations where you’re a cousin or distant relative of the bride, you have the right to say “no thank you” upfront in a tasteful manner. Consider before agreeing if you really have the time and money necessary to devote to the wedding.
To maintain your sanity during stressful or frustrating times, remember that being a bridesmaid is an honor. By asking you to be part of her wedding, the bride is acknowledging that you have made a significant impact on her life. There are likely a handful of her family members and friends that are jealous they were not asked to be bridesmaids.
To not break the bank as a bridesmaid, consider making a gift for the bride. The couple will be overwhelmed with store-bought gifts from their wedding registries, so a handmade gift will stand out in a positive way. The most meaningful gift I received as a bride was a wedding keepsake box from my maid of honor. She simply covered a hat box with magazine cutouts of phrases and photos related to my wedding. The thought and time she put into it meant so much to me.
To keep the bride happy, try to plan ahead for a stress-free wedding day. Plan for the bridal party to get pedicures together at a spa, or participate in a calming activity like a yoga class. Surprise the bride with fruit and champagne to celebrate before the ceremony.
To stay organized, try creating an inbox folder for all wedding-related e-mails the bride and fellow bridesmaids send you. Put mailed invitations on your fridge so that you don’t have to bug the bride for times or directions on days of wedding events, like bridal showers.
Regarding the bridesmaid dress, try to happily wear whatever the bride asks you to. It boils down to a few hours wearing a dress you never have to wear again. Every guest is aware that your dress was the bride’s choice, so they will not judge you if it is a train wreck. Afterward, give your bridesmaid dress to a local Glass Slipper Project that recycles formals for girls to wear at school dances, who could not otherwise afford them. Just in case the bride ever asks, you gave the bridesmaid dress to a good cause.
In the end remember . . .
Brides: Don’t get caught-up in the silly details. Focus your attention on what your wedding is all about – you and your fiancé committing your lives to one another.
Bridesmaids: It is only one day, so just give it to the bride and enjoy.
Thanks for Remembering

The walk down the aisle from the movie Father of the Bride (photo property of Touchstone).
“Are you crying Dad?” I asked, as he tried to hide it at our rehearsal dinner. I had only seen my Dad Jack cry once before in my life, when our dog died. I had just handed him a thank you note and gift, a pen engraved Father of the Bride. That movie had been special to us since I was a little girl, so it only seemed right to include a quote from it in my note. As George (Steve Martin) walks his daughter Annie (Kimberly Williams-Paisley) down the aisle, he thinks: This was the moment I’d been dreading for the past six months. Well, actually for the past 22 years.

My walk down the aisle with my Dad Jack on Carambola Beach (photo by my Aunt, Sandy Smith).
In the hustle and bustle of a wedding, brides and grooms often forget to say “thank you.” Not because they’re ungrateful, but simply because weddings are a whirlwind. It is important to take a moment to express appreciation for those making your wedding day possible, like your parents and wedding party. Not to mention important vendors like your officiant and all the guests traveling to see you say “I do.”

Reverand Koopmans holding our hook bracelets before we exchanged them as part of our ceremony (photo by Quiana Duncan).
For destination weddings, couples often opt for thank you gifts and favors that tie-in their destination. Personally, I selected original St Croix hook bracelets from Sonya’s for my bridesmaids. If worn with the hook closed to others, it means your heart is taken and vice versa. The bracelets looked beautiful worn all-together by the bridal party during our ceremony. My husband Greg and I also gave each other hook bracelets when we exchanged wedding rings, so it made the bridesmaid’s gift all-the-more meaningful.
Our guest welcome bags included chocolates from local shop Steele’s Smokes & Sweets, as well as small bottles of Cruzan rum with drink recipe cards attached.

A few elements of our guest welcome bags, including chocolates from Steele’s Smokes & Sweets in Christiansted (photo by my Grandma, Dorothy Paviolo).
The thank you notes you include are often as or more important than the gift you give. Consider the following recommendations for writing them:
- Handwriting your notes is a must.
- Invest the time or money to make or purchase stationary.
- Consider typing out what you want to say first to avoid sloppy spelling or grammar.
- Think about something you could only say to the person you’re writing to. Be it an inside joke or a meaningful memory between the two of you, try to weave it into what you write.
- Don’t just say thank you for the [blank]. Tell the recipient why the gift is meaningful to you or what your plans are for it. For example, in thanking someone for a monetary gift, tell them you are placing the funds into savings for your first home.
- The sooner you send, the better. If you can bring thank you notes and gifts to the wedding, even better. Etiquette guru Emily Post says thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of a gift.
Thoughtful favors and welcome bags will certainly be appreciated by your guests. Here are some suggestions on what to give from the knot guide to destination weddings:
- Local food, drink or candy delicacies
- CD from a great local musician
- Beach towel, sunscreen, flip-flops or visor
- Luggage tags personalized with each guest’s name and address
- Photo albums they can fill later with pictures from the trip
- Small stack of postcards from the destination (pre-stamped so guests can write friends back home)
Take your time, be creative and you’ll be sure to give unforgettable thank you notes and gifts!
Traveling to your destination wedding with gifts and favors can be overwhelming, especially with items that can break or melt. Let SunCelebrations take care of gifts and favors for you. Say “thanks” to your guests with customized welcome bags and favors that express your style and incorporate island flair. We offer everything from embroidered beach towels and personalized luggage tags, to local chocolates and rum. SunCelebrations can provide ideas, place /pick-up orders, assemble and deliver welcome bags (including printed itineraries) for your guests to enjoy on-arrival at their hotel, or place favors at your reception. We also offer thank you gifts for parents of the couple and wedding party.
Ashley & Greg are Moving to St Croix!

October 2009 Issue featuring article "St Croix: A Virgin Isle to Call Home"
This month’s issue of Caribbean Travel & Life magazine features an excellent 6-page article on the prospect of moving to St Croix. The author turns out to be a friend of a friend and, as a result, many of the faces and places in the article are familiar to me. Well that and living on a rock that measures 6 miles (at its widest point) by 24 miles, you get to know most places and faces. Its perfect timing, because this is also the month that April 2009 St Croix Wedding clients, Ashley & Greg, move to St Croix!
The article highlights some of my favorite places and really gives a good view into our island lifestyle.
The opening 2-page photo of Christiansted Harbor and the seaplane is simply breathtaking. Its overlaid with the interior title “Bohemian Rhapsody”. I guess that is a good description. The island definitely has a bohemian feel, particularly for the expats or what locals call “Continentals”. Here, life is a little less materialistic, a little slower. Acceptable “business casual” attire includes shorts and flip flops. We savor meals, slowly. We sit back and enjoy life. We take the time to connect with our friends and lend a helping hand when needed. We hit the beach on a regular basis. And most importantly, we develop a strong sense of community. Life is good.
Whether you are interested in moving to St Croix or just visiting, I highly recommend picking up a copy of this month’s magazine. You can even download it to your computer for only $4.99 The article includes hightlights and info on Buck Island, Zebo’s Wine Bar (one of my favorite hang outs that features an amazing menu of locally grown organics), The VI Sustainable Farm Institute (another favorite place of mine), Restaurant Bacchus (yep you guessed it, I love this place too … and owner Natalie Collins also does bridal hair for us!), a high-adrenaline Jeep Tour to the Annaly Bay Tide Pools, and hands-down my favorite spot for St Croix weddings - Carambola Beach Resort & Spa (if you’re interested in staying there, be sure to contact us for our discounted rates!). Truly, it’s a great read and reminded me just why I live here in America’s Paradise.

Ashley & Greg wed at Carambola Beach April 2009. photo (c) Quiana L Duncan
It also reminded me that Ashley & Greg will be here soon!!! They’re taking the plunge and moving from Dallas to St Croix after having fallen in love with the island while planning their St Croix Destination Wedding. Ashley & Greg were lucky enough to make two scouting trips to the island during the planning process. With a background in PR and events, Ashley did most of the planning herself and hired SunCelebrations to step in and coordinate her wedding day with our Week of Wedding Planning Package. This gave both Ashley & Greg the opportunity to not only have the wedding of their dreams, but to also spend time with their guests and ENJOY their day. Ashley had a detailed vision and specific guidelines for what she wanted. By communicating that vision in detail to us, we were able to ensure that she was relaxed on her wedding day and able to simply focus on getting dolled up and walking down the aisle.
After working with Ashley on her wedding, I had thought to myself, “Wow, I would love to have her on my team, she’d make a great wedding planner”. So, when she told me that it was official that she and Greg were moving to St Croix, I offered her a position as an outside consultant. Ashley will be joining our team at the beginning of October and will bring to the table a fresh perspective as a former destination bride herself!
Stay tuned for more on Ashley’s move to St Croix and an upcoming chance to participate in a free conference call ”Ask Ashley” open to our clients and perspective clients. Contact us today for more information!
Yes … You can wear white after Labor Day (especially at your beach wedding)
When planning wedding attire for a tropical beach wedding in the islands, there are some things that you should keep in mind in order to keep yourself, your hubby and your wedding party comfortable and happy during your big day.
Beachy Brides: Even if you are having a casual beach wedding, you don’t have to give up on that formal dress you’ve always dreamed of – just be sure that the dress suits the environment. Most weddings on St Croix happen about an hour before sunset, and though its breezy, its still quite warm on the beach.
Dos:
- Choose strapless, spaghetti straps, halter or wide straps – show some sun-kissed skin!
- Choose natural fabrics like silk or light and flowing fabrics that breathe like chiffons.
- Think about sophisticated, classic and sleek lines.
- Pay attention to the back of your dress – ornate backs, beadwork, open-backs show a little skin and look beautiful in pictures.
- Check out Dessy.com’s Destination Wedding Dress Trend Report http://www.dessy.com/wedding-planner/dress-trends/ or check out their Destination Wedding collection http://www.dessy.com/wedding-dresses/
- Have a bridesmaid or family member practice bustling your dress in advance. Every dress bustles differently, and those darn little eyehooks can be hard to find. Have someone practice bustling your dress a few times and be sure to have them on hand before the first dance to hook you up.
- Kick off your heels. Heels just don’t work on the beach (they don’t work well on lawns either). There are so many options today when it comes to flip flops – from beaded and bejeweled to flips that leave a “just married” imprint in the sand. You can even accessorize your feet with some foot jewelry. Be sure to keep your foot attire in mind when fitting your wedding dress – you’ll want it to not drag on the ground when you are barefoot. Fun idea: Have a beachy spa day with your bridesmaids and treat yourselves to pedicures. The day before your wedding, have them help you paint an exotic Henna stain on your feet. You can get kits and ideas (be sure to practice in advance) here: http://hennatattoo.blogspot.com/search/label/henna%20kit
- Have a second dress. This is a growing trend that we really love. Have a second white, less formal, lighter and more comfortable dress for after the formalities (usually once photos are done following cake cutting). You’ll be cooler and so much more comfortable when you change and it will signal to your guests that the party has really kicked in. True Celebrity-style!
- Make sure your bathing suit matches the line of your dress! There is nothing worse than big bright tan lines on your wedding day! Be sure that the bathing suit you wear on the beach matches the line of your dress. And give that same direction to your bridesmaids!!
- Wear TONS of sunscreen. The sun in the tropics is strong. Tank tops and other shirts can also create those dreaded tan lines, so before your wedding day, be sure to be kind to your skin. Drink lots of water, wear at least a 30spf and reapply, reapply, reapply, reapply. This goes for your groom and wedding party too! Photoshop can fix your photos if there is a mishap, but try to avoid it in the first place!
- Accessorize! A simple and elegant piece of jewelry can really set off your wedding dress. Consider a local piece of jewelry – St Croix is known for its amazing jewelry artisans.

ib design "Circle of Life" collection
You can incorporate larimar (the azure blue Caribbean stone) for your “something blue”, pearls or other beachy elements. We’ve even had couples exchange “Crucian Bracelets” as part of their wedding ceremony! For apres ceremony, paper parasols will keep the sun off add a little flare to your pics.
- Some of our favorite jewelers on St Croix are
ib design (Kenny Chesney wears one of Whealon’s St John bracelets!) , Sonya’s (creator of the original St Croix Hook) and Crucian Gold - Looking for some real bling? Consider renting jewelry for you and your bridal party from Adorn Brides
Don’ts:
- Wear a long train – dragging your train down the beach is sure to pick up “hitchhikers” (pieces of seaweed, stones, etc) as you walk down the sandy aisle. Choose a chapel length or short train if you really can’t go without.
- Get burned!!! I can’t stress this enough. Sunscreen and the shade are your friend. Burns not only look bad in your pictures, but they are uncomfortable and unhealthy. Don’t ruin your wedding day by being over enthusiastic with tanning and neglecting good skincare!
A cool Groom is a happy Groom (groomsmen too): I can’t stress enough that you should not only think about the look and feel you want for your wedding, but also how your wedding party will feel wearing it. Consider the heat and humidity at a beach wedding and also consider whether your reception will be al fresco, dining outside under the stars, or will it be in an air-conditioned venue.
Dos:
- Again, choose natural fabrics and avoid synthetics. 100% Cotton and linen breathe keeping your guys cooler, more comfortable and preventing excessive sweat stains.
- If you really want your guys in suits or tuxes, keep them in linen or cotton light summer-weight suits. Consider having them wear short sleeve linen shirts underneath so that after portraits, they too can get comfortable.
- Consider cotton shirts with ties. They still have a smart, clean look but are cooler than jackets.
- Guayaberras. Guy-a-whos?! Guayaberras!! Traditional Latin American linen wedding shirts. These shirts are usually embroidered down the front and were traditional wedding attire in hot, steamy climates. The look beautiful on the beach and are the perfect touch for a casually, elegant beach wedding. Try matching the embroidery thread to your wedding colors for an extra pop of color.

white linen Guayabera
- For a fun, casual style wedding, have your groomsmen wear tropical-style shirts in the same pattern or for a little extra fun, have them pick out their own.
- Have your guys go barefoot or wear nice leather sandals. These can still look smart with a formal suit. (just be sure to leave out the socks!)
Don’ts:
- Expect your groom and/or groomsmen to keep jackets on for the reception.
- Don’t forget about the heat! Choose synthetic fabrics like rayon.
- Don’t leave your groomsmen standing on the beach for half an hour waiting for you. Plan your hair & makeup preparations carefully, giving yourself plenty of time to avoid running late. Sweats stains will creep into your wedding photos.
- Resources:
http://www.theguayaberashirtstore.com/
We LOVE Tommy Bahama: http://www.tommybahama.com/TBG/Men/Wedding.jsp

photo (c) Kelly Greer Photographer
For the Bridesmaids:
Again, light weight, no more than 2-layers and natural fabrics are ideal. Think bright colors or jewel tones inspired by the natural surroundings. Also think about the type of flowers you would like them to carry. I think that flowers that contrast with the dresses pop and look stunning in pictures – think bright orange & reds with a turquoise or deep blue dress. Or lime-green cymbidium orchids against a navy dress. If you’re getting married in the tropics, there’s no need to be afraid of color!
- Give your bridesmaids direction with color, but allow them to choose a style and neckline that flatters their figure.
- Choose colors that pop and compliment your theme.
- Remind your bridesmaids to wear a bathing suit that matches the neckline of their dress!
- Give your bridesmaids the gift of sunscreen!
- For more casual beach weddings, consider giving your girls some color direction, but letting them go and pick out their own sundresses.
- For a more dramatic look, consider long, flowing, chiffon gowns in your theme colors.
- Accessorize your gals with simple pendants that compliment the neckline of their dresses.
Don’ts
- Go too formal. There’s a reason you are having a beach wedding!
- Forget to have fun! Don’t let the stress of “the perfect wedding” take the fun out of planning. Keep your inner bridezilla at bay.
- Resources:
We love the fun, colorful patterns of Lily Pulitzer http://www.lillypulitzer.com/
J. Crew’s style and fabrics are great for tropical weddings http://www.jcrew.com/AST/Navigation/Wedding.jsp
For your guests: Be sure to give your guests at your Destination Wedding a little direction too so that they pack just what they need. For island elegant, semi-formal weddings specify that gentleman should wear jackets and ties, ladies in gowns or cocktail dresses. For more casual weddings suggest button down shirts for men and sundresses for the ladies. To incorporate your guests into your theme – recommend a color for guests or request that all gentlemen wear tropical shirts. We’ve even done weddings where the bride & groom requested that everyone wear flip flops and the invitation included a note that there would be a “best flip flop” parade and contest at the reception. Guests had a blast coming up with some really unique footwear. How fun is that?!
Remember, if you’ve already chosen to have a destination wedding, you’re already “thinking outside the box”. Have fun with it and keep the comfort of your wedding party and guests in mind when planning. They’ll thank you for it and you’ll all enjoy yourselves that much more!
Sun & Smiles,
Cindy

all photos courtesy Kelly Greer Photographer and Quiana L Duncan Photography
Special thanks to Kelly Greer Photographer and Quiana L Duncan for their amazing photos! All weddings above are from our previous SunCelebrities (TM)!
What a busy summer!
It seems as thought I’ve had to deactivate and activate my blog 100 times – ugh. But, I think that yahoo webhosting finally has a streamlined connection with WordPress, so hopefully smooth sailing ahead!
In the mean time, I’ve been working hard no the newly enhanced website as well as new planning tools for our brides and grooms! We’ve been diligently investigating new services and products that are in keeping with the great customer service and value that we expect from all vendors who works with us.
One of the services that I recently came across and partnered with is one that i’m really excited about! AdornBrides.com – did you see the Sex and the City movie? Its kind of like Bag, Borrow or Steal (the service that Jennifer Houston used to rent her expensive designer bag) that was featured in the movie – but instead its for fine jewelry! You really can look like a celebrity bride at a reasonable price … and your bridesmaids can too! They have free style consultations and a great collection of jewelery
… And the best part – our clients get a 10% discount! Promo Code PVGXKZ21 AND if you book more than 4 mos in advance there are even deeper discounts. For destination brides – they will ship to you in the states before you leave, you send the jewelry back in the boxes provided when you return. How easy is that?!
Visit our website for more details on how to rent fine jewelry
… and remember renting is repurposing and a “greener” practice!
Celebrating Earth Week: Tips for a Greener Wedding
… Below is a reprinting of my blog entry from April 21st 2009, due to a technical difficulty, past blog entries were deleted. But this one was worth reprinting!!
An eco-tourism paradise: St Croix has plenty of green!
In honoring Earth Week 2009, here are a few of the ways that we at SunCelebrations are committed to keeping our island and our earth a little more green, as well as some tips for you to “green up” your wedding!
- In our office, we print as little as possible. As most of our clients are far away – we do most all of our planning via email and the internet – we are able to keep the majority of our correspondence and files electronic. Our Service Guides and portfolio are electronic pdf files and we use MS Outlook and OneNote to keep it all organized.
- When we do need to print – we use recycled paper – including really cool Banana Paper – and we print on both sides.
- For faxing, we use efax.com services. Again, keeping our files electronic. We can “fax” documents right out of our email and receive faxes as pdfs. These are kept in electronic folders on the main computer and are only printed if necessary.
- Reduce, Reuse, Recycle is truly our motto! We repurpose decorator items for weddings. This also saves costs for our brides (reduces shipping costs when things are already here!). All of our weddings are unique, so we look at new and different ways to use items. For instance, most of our vases can also be used as candle holders!
- Speaking of candles… we have been investing in LED “votives” to rent to clients. These are an excellent alternative to traditional candles for a couple of reasons. Candles are typically made of petroleum products (unless you are purchasing “greener” beeswax or soy which are a little more costly), they also tend to blow out at outdoor venues. Today’s LED candles stay lit (for up to 48hrs) and are so lifelike they even flicker. LED lights use 1/10th of the power of incandescant lights, come in fun colors and are convenient to use at outdoor venues that may lack outlets. By renting LED candles, you can also avoid shipping costs. We even recycle the spent batteries! To purchase LED candles for your wedding visit:
100 Candles.com – Candles, Candle Holders, Soy Candles and more! - Gift bags are super popular with destination brides. It’s a nice way to say “thank you for travelling so far to celebrate with us” … we encourage our brides to purchase reusable shopping bags for their gift bags! They come in lots of fun colors, are very inexpensive and promote the use of reusable shopping bags. We love www.papermart.com They make great beach bags too!
- Buy local!!! For gift bags and other items, we encourage our brides to purchase from local vendors on St Croix. Again, being eco-savvy also means being economical. Buying local avoids a lot of shipping costs for our clients. It’s also a nice way to promote our local economy and to offer a keepsake or memento of the islands.
- Use Local flowers. We work with a very talented local florist, Gloria Powell of www.antilleslilies.com She is an expert at using local flora for weddings! She is versed on what is blooming at different times of the year and incorporates them into the flowers along with the color scheme and bride’s style. It can get very pricey shipping flowers here (they have to be flown in) – so this is a fantastic way to save some money and also get a really unique bouquet or arrangement. My brides are always thrilled with her artistry.
- Promote local farmers. Local produce simply tastes better and is better for you! We have recently teamed up with the chef at the VI Sustainable Farm Institute www.visfi.org – an ICO and USDA certified organic farm. They have been producing monthly “Slow Food” dinners that sell out in a heartbeat and so we’ve added them to our roster of chefs for private functions. We’re so excited to be promoting not only whole, organic foods, but also great people doing GREAT things in our community.
- And lastly, if you already have your home set up and aren’t in need of another toaster – consider requesting your guests make a donation in your honor in lieu of gifts. There are so many deserving local charities on St Croix as part of your legacy, leave a positive lasting impression by offering help to those who live here. Some of the excellent charities that we support are:
- FirstBook a grassroots charity committed to literacy by providing underpriviledged children in our community with BRAND NEW reading books. Ask us about donations directly to the local St Croix Chapter.
- St Croix Animal Welfare Center supports the homeless animals on St Croix and provides humane education to local schools and the community. I have 2 shelter babies – Teleulah & Boddhi. The SCAWC works with stateside “no kill” shelters to place even more animals in loving homes. If you would like to participate in their “Pets from Paradise” program and escort a puppy or kitten to a shelter in the states, contact us for more information. The shelter in St Croix will meet you at the airport, the shelter in the states will meet you upon arrival. Its so easy!!

Boddhi

- Teleulah
Girlfriends of the Caribbean – A Girlfriends Getaway
… Below is a reprinting of my blog entry from April 4th 2009, due to a technical difficulty, past blog entries were deleted. But this one was worth reprinting!!
Last week was so much fun! I finally stopped and took some time to smell the frangipani and marvel in the beauty that is St Croix.
I always enjoy having visitors to the island, because it offers an opportunity to see the island through new eyes and a different perspective and also gives me the chance to share the home that I’ve fallen in love with. Last week, following the growing trend, my girlfriends decided to descend upon St Croix for a long weekend vacation. It all started with my dear college friend Deseree. We have been talking about the possibility of her moving down here and helping out with SunCelebrations and she needed a break from the daily grind. So she finally chose a 4-day weekend to visit. Next thing I knew, she mentioned that her sister-in-law, Shelly, wanted to join as a getaway for her birthday… I said “absolutely, more the merrier”… so Annette and then Missy joined on too. And while we were planning, I happened to get an FB instant message from another college friend – Barbara. I told her that the girls were planning to come down and she should join up – so she booked her ticket the next day for a week. She arrived on the Sunday before the rest of the gals who arrived on Thursday. This was just perfect as both Barb and I dive, but the others don’t… so we took advantage of the great weather and dove every morning until their arrival. Here’s a chronicle of our adventure to inspire your girlfriends getaway – enjoy!!
Day 1 – Barb arrives:
Barb arrived on a very busy day for St Croix – so many choices of fun things to do! There was the Chili Cook Off to benefit the United Way out at Divi, The Starving Artists Fair and my favorite, the Slow Down dinner out at the VI Sustainable Farm Institute. So, I picked her up at the airport, we threw her suitcase in the trunk and got on the road. First we stopped at the Starving Artists Fair for the last hour. Jamesie and the All Stars were playing. I just love them!! They are a “scratch band” who play authentic Virgin Islands music called “Quelbe”. Its kind of like Crucian folk music and is sort of like a Caribbean Blue Grass. Its fun, lively and just makes me happy every time I hear it. Both Barb and I were a little hungry, but didn’t want to spoil our appetites (we were heading to the Slow Down dinner), so I introduced her to Caribbean pate (pat-AY). These are deep fried dough pockets with a savory filling of beef, chicken, salt fish or conch. Delish! We had them with some homemade hot sauce and homemade ginger beer. A perfect intro to island life.

We brought a bottle of my favorite - Red Guitar
After walking around a bit and checking out some vendors, we headed up into the “rainforest” (really a humid tropical forest but lets not get technical) to the VI Sustainable Farm Institute at Creque Dam farm. I had told Barb she was in for a treat, but she had no idea! The Slow Down dinners have quickly become an island favorite and are offered once or twice a month by invitation – and they sell out FAST! I was so excited to have finally been invited to one that was not on the same night as a wedding I was coordinating (jeez guys could you please check MY schedule LOL) so I went ahead and bought tickets. Now, knowing Barb, I knew that not only would she enjoy the organically grown and locally produced 6 course gourmet meal – but she’d love the farm itself too! After all, Barb was expecting 23 baby chickens upon her arrival back home. The VISFI is such a magical place. Tucked into a breathtaking valley on the West end of St Croix, Ben Jones has carefully crafted his dream of having a self-sustaining farm institute that teaches others in our community and abroad how to live more in synch with the environment and create a health lifestyle. I’m always impressed when I got out there that these folks truly practice what they preach. The community center was built with sustainable hardwoods that were harvested by an environmental and employee conscious company in Guyana. The farm itself is powered by solar and wind generated power (but don’t worry folks, they have Wi-Fi!) and is surrounded by organic farm beds. They are both ICO and USDA certified organic – the only farm in the Caribbean with this well-earned status.

Founder Ben Jones tells us about the next course
The meal was AMAZING! We brought our own wine – my favorite “Red Guitar” mmmm and each course was narrated by founder Ben Jones. He explained the menu items and told us a bit about how they were farmed, and about the plants and the farm itself. Our first course was an organic bruschetta appetizer that was to-die-for, followed by a rabbit soup.
This was the first time that I tried rabbit (tastes like chicken!). I grew up with bunnies and so had a little trepidation, but figured I’d be adventurous. It was good. That was followed by a yummy organic salad and the main course of our local Senepol beef with local root vegetables. Dessert was a local pumpkin cake with a sauce from a plant that I can’t remember but it was moist and excellent. I HIGHLY recommend snagging tickets to the next Slow Dinner if you can. They aren’t cheap – go for about $60pp, but the proceeds benefit the farm programs and the meal and atmosphere are so worth it. This is a truly enjoyable slow , dining experience. www.visfi.org
Days 2 – Diving the pier:
Well, I have a confession to make. After all my years living and diving on St Croix, I had never been diving at the Frederiksted pier. So, my great friends Kelly & Kevin Culp took us out for a late afternoon shore dive. Holy cow – have I been missing out!!! This was an absolutely amazing dive and hands down my favorite dive spot on the island! There were SO MANY FISH… this is also the place to see octopus and seahorses. We didn’t see either of those that afternoon, but we did see a very large green sea turtle happily swimming along, schools and schools of brightly colored fish (I won’t bore you with ALL the names), and baby trunk fish that look like polka-dotted marbles (so cute!). It was a great dive and we followed it up with a casual beachside dinner at Coconuts with Kevin’s parents who were also visiting.
Days 3-5
Diving with N2 the Blue. I usually dive with SCUBA because its easy for me to jump on the boat in Christiansted. But, they were full the morning I called and Barb and I had rented equipment from N2 the Blue in Frederiksted for our shore dive at the pier the day prior… so we called them up first thing in the morning and totally lucked out as they had spots for us on their boat (they only take out 6 divers max). Derek and Anna, the owners are great. Derek had actually certified me as a diver years ago when he worked for Cane Bay Dive Shop, but I hadn’t dove with him since. Derek was our dive master and Anna, his wife, captained the boat. They were so warm and welcoming and best of all RELAXED that we ended up diving with them all week and loved every minute of it. We dove the deep wrecks out at Butler Bay (AWESOME) and reefs off the west end (we had to stay West due to the swells that week). Saw lots of turtles, rays, schools of fish – lots of good stuff. I HIGHLY recommend diving with N2 the Blue. Fantastic! Thanks guys!!
… continue on Day 5.
Barb and I finished up our morning dives – changed into dry clothes and headed to the airport to pick up the girls!! Let the GIRLFRIENDS GETAWAY begin!! We made a quick stop at Plaza Extra to load up the cooler with CRUZAN RUM and some mixers to meet them at the airport. Yes folks, we were bartending in the parking lot at the airport -

Beach sign at the Palms - designed by yours truly!
you’ve got to love that kind of a welcome when you get St Croix! We met the girls, got their luggage and gave them a cocktail, then headed over to the Palms at Pelican Cove . I simply love this place. When friends and family visit – this is where I have them stay. Affordable, beautiful and I strongly believe the best customer service on the island. Owners Chuck and Joyce live on property and truly make you feel like a guest in their home when you stay there. General Manager, Julie Printy, is fantastic and always has a huge smile for everyone. Pat and Dickie are there to welcome you with a cool rum punch at the front desk. Rooms have been recently upgraded with new furniture from
Indonesia and all rooms have ocean views. Its about a 100 step walk at most to the beach. You have a great view of Buck Island and dining is literally beachside. As someone with an animal science degree, I also love their dedication to the environment and conservation of their active sea turtle nesting beach. I’ve worked directly with Chuck and Joyce on conservation efforts and applaud them for all that they do to improve their property and keep it safe for our endangered sea turtles. Chuck is also an avid snorkeler and personally leads snorkel tours through the reef on the property (see Day 6).
After changing into more comfortable beach attire, we all headed over to the bar and had an early dinner along with more rum! I had the fish and chips which were sooooo yummy!! That night we all relaxed and had an early night.
Day 6
The girls relaxed in the morning beachside, I had some work to catch up on, needed to talk shop with Deseree and took my adorable new kitten Boddhi to the vet for his second shots. My vet just opened her new hospital and the day before had won an award for her dedication to the environment. Sugar Mill Veterinary hospital is not only beautiful and state-of-the-art, but totally green and powered with solar and wind. Oh and I have to give props to my friend Kevin Culp who headed up the project. Great job!!

Say Cheese!
That afternoon, Chuck had invited us to join him and some other hotel guests on a snorkeling adventure to a spot he had “discovered” out East near Pt Udall (the easternmost point of the US). Yes, the owner of the hotel took a caravan of guests, including some lively gals, snorkeling just because he loves to. Not only did he lead us out there, guide the tour and have a cooler full of beer for us afterwards, but he provided each of us with a photo CD of the adventure the next day. Chuck, you rock! This was a great little spot, sheltered by barrier reef (that surrounds 3/4 of the island).

Squid are so beautiful
We saw lots of little fish swimming among the coral heads, a school of squid and some trunk fish (my favorite). A great time was had by all.
After the snorkeling, we stopped at “America’s Cheeseburger in Paradise” a fun, inexpensive and casual spot with the best – yes you guessed it – burgers! Later that evening, we headed downtown to walk around and drink some suds at the Ft Christian Brew Pub where local band Lumbergh was playing. Good times!
Day 7

A gorgeous day at Sandy Point
Some of the girls decided to take it easy and hang at the beach then do some shopping downtown. Today was also Shelly’s birthday, so Barb, Shelly and I joined a couple of my friends at the world famous Domino Club for breakfast – eggs, biscuits and sausage gravy – oh yum!! Of course, we took some time to see the “beer drinking pigs” and then we headed off to Sandy Point. Hands down the most beautiful beach on St Croix.

Picnic lunch at Sandy Point with yummy sandwiches from Schooner Bay Market
Sandy Point is a wildlife refuge and only open from 10am to 4pm on Saturday and Sunday from approximately October thru May. Its closed May through October because it is critical nesting habitat for the endangered Leatherback sea turtle. We spent the day floating in the warm Caribbean Sea and body surfing, had lunch on the beach (you have to bring it in, there are no facilities – this is a truly pristine beach) and headed back to meet up with the rest of the gang for a sunset sail.

Girlfriends set sail
One of the gals, Annette, gets a bit sea sick, so she opted to stay at the Palms on dry land and relax beachside. Not too shabby. The rest of us headed into Christiansted to jump on board Caribbean Sea Adventures’ 26-passenger sailing trimaran, Wave Dancer. And we lucked out too because for us it was a private sail!

A spectacular Caribbean sunset
Originally, we had planned to head out on the World Ocean School sailing schooner the Roseway but it doesn’t do sunsets on Saturdays.
However, we were all thrilled to death with Captain JP and his crew who pampered us with bottomless cups of rum punch and ordered up one of the best Caribbean sunsets that I’ve seen in awhile. Kudos to JP and crew!

Chocolate cake at Savant - Happy Birthday Shelly!
After the sail, we picked up Annette and headed off for Shelly’s birthday dinner at one of my favorite restaurants – Savant. Not only does it have excellent food (and you MUST try the charbroiled calamari) but, its got some celebrity style as well. Owner Tom Miller’s wife Kate (Bartoldus) Miller was a movie set designer on films like Town & Country, Unbreakable, The Sixth Sense, Fallen, Chasing Amy & 12 Monkeys. She designed and sculpted the super sexy back patio that is like dining in a garden amongst the ruins of an old plantation. The booth benches are sculpted into the wall. Its got this Moroccan, Southern feel that just oozes romance.

Picture Time!
I absolutely love dining here, sipping wine from their great wine list and have several events lined up here over the next few months. And the girls totally agreed that it was just super fab! We dined on an eclectic mix of Caribbean, Mexican, Thai fusion until our bellies were full and then topped it off with decadent chocolate cake, complete with birthday candle.
Day 8
Its always sad to see friends go. We made a trip to the local warehouse store to pick up the obligatory Cruzan Rum and travel boxes to check on the plane (fyi our USVI Dept of Tourism has a deal with the airlines so there is no additional baggage fee for booze boxes!). We also stopped at the grocery store to pick up bottles of locally produced Miss Anna’s hot sauce which makes great gifts. The drive to the airport was lively and as we waived goodbye, I knew they were planning their next St Croix Adventure as they said “Next time we’ll be here for the whole week!”.
If you’d like more information on the activities mentioned above or would like for us to put together your own customized Girlfriends Getaway to St Croix contact me cindy@suncelebrations.com or visit our website www.suncelebrations.com and check out “Group Travel”








